A Teen Perspective on: Time management
By: KRae
Managing your time to some can come as easy as washing your hands but I have noticed that lots of my friends seem to have a very difficult time managing their time. And that is why I felt I needed to write a little article just to try and help out.
So, if you are one of these people where procrastinating comes more naturally to you than anything else (or if you just need help managing your time) than please I do ask you to continue reading because this might do some good for you.
A Big thing that I believe will help you in managing your time is to, either in your head or on paper, categorize what takes up your time in lists or numbered rankings, by importance.
Example, work and or school are, or should be, pretty darn high on your list or ranking. And getting a new achievement on a game or updating friends on the latest gossip should be pretty low, weather you want to admit it or not. I’m assuming your getting my point.
After you have everything categorized try and set up time blocks to do what you need to do. But make sure you have your lower ranked time as well, or you will become completely over run day to day. Because if you leave out simple relaxation, you could start to do far more harm on your body, or even make it hard for you to have any of your sleep time(which if you oversleep than lower sleeps ranking, and if you under sleep then boost it up a number or two.)
If you are, or want to be, a more organized person than I highly suggest making a journal, like a calendar, of your time and how it should, and needs to be handled properly.
All else fails have one full day of nothing but your top ranked things, figure out “hey I lived without that other stuff” then manage your time again according to this new found since of,” I don’t need those low ranked things nearly as much as I thought I needed them, and I get a lot more out of a productive day than I thought I would. Or maybe you won’t sound anything like that but still will enjoy having a very productive day now and then.
Now make a plan stick to it and enjoy managed time.
Friday, January 29, 2010
Friday, January 22, 2010
A Teen Perspective on: Being Content in Loneliness
A Teen Perspective on: Being Content in Loneliness
Being content can mean lots of different things but the way I am going to touch on is, being content through the loneliness. You see I have and have seen far too many people, feel far too lonely and therefore it is something I feel most all of us could use a little help on.
So to start with, realize you aren’t alone. You may feel alone physically or emotionally but even if you are fully alone someone else out in the world is also. If you can realize or try and imagine that you’re not the only lonely person than that should help you to not feel so alone. For example if you are lonely because of a break up try and think about how, even if they left you for another, they may be feeling as lonely as you do right now as well. Or, if you feel lonely because of a death than realize how many other people die in a day and how lonely the other people who knew them feel as well. You see simply feeling alone is bad but feeling you are the only one alone can be even worse. So realize you aren’t the only one alone and you should then start to feel at least a little better about it all.
But maybe you are more of a busy body and you are just feeling lonely because you’re not out and about with friends or just busy working. Well if this since of loneliness seems like you than I encourage you to find a hobby. Something you can do easily and alone at home when you aren’t busy out and about. Things like making card castles, drawing, writing, even hitting a ball against the wall or just collecting things or learning an instrument, anything you think you might enjoy and then can and will do when you feel lonely when you are at home at the end of a very packed day. If a hobby doesn’t sound the most appealing then you can make a list of movies or TV shows you have wanted to see and when you feel lonely pop one in.
But maybe you feel lonely due to lack of friends or at least lack of close friends. In which case maybe you need to simply reconnect with an old friend, make a friend a closer friend or just make new friends. Just find a friend so then the two of you or a group of friends can keep each other company on those days you feel you need people around because of loneliness.
Another little trick might be to get a pet. Something easy to take care of that will just be there. Or even a dog that will take up even more of your time and entertain you in the lonely times. Maybe that is what you need. Or maybe a cat to waist your money…kidding… cats are actually very helpful to cure loneliness.
There are also, of course, personal tricks you will learn that help you to feel content but those may take time to learn and so I would say, try a trick and learn how it helps you personally and then go from there. I do hope this all helps you, and just remember to know you’re not alone.
Being content can mean lots of different things but the way I am going to touch on is, being content through the loneliness. You see I have and have seen far too many people, feel far too lonely and therefore it is something I feel most all of us could use a little help on.
So to start with, realize you aren’t alone. You may feel alone physically or emotionally but even if you are fully alone someone else out in the world is also. If you can realize or try and imagine that you’re not the only lonely person than that should help you to not feel so alone. For example if you are lonely because of a break up try and think about how, even if they left you for another, they may be feeling as lonely as you do right now as well. Or, if you feel lonely because of a death than realize how many other people die in a day and how lonely the other people who knew them feel as well. You see simply feeling alone is bad but feeling you are the only one alone can be even worse. So realize you aren’t the only one alone and you should then start to feel at least a little better about it all.
But maybe you are more of a busy body and you are just feeling lonely because you’re not out and about with friends or just busy working. Well if this since of loneliness seems like you than I encourage you to find a hobby. Something you can do easily and alone at home when you aren’t busy out and about. Things like making card castles, drawing, writing, even hitting a ball against the wall or just collecting things or learning an instrument, anything you think you might enjoy and then can and will do when you feel lonely when you are at home at the end of a very packed day. If a hobby doesn’t sound the most appealing then you can make a list of movies or TV shows you have wanted to see and when you feel lonely pop one in.
But maybe you feel lonely due to lack of friends or at least lack of close friends. In which case maybe you need to simply reconnect with an old friend, make a friend a closer friend or just make new friends. Just find a friend so then the two of you or a group of friends can keep each other company on those days you feel you need people around because of loneliness.
Another little trick might be to get a pet. Something easy to take care of that will just be there. Or even a dog that will take up even more of your time and entertain you in the lonely times. Maybe that is what you need. Or maybe a cat to waist your money…kidding… cats are actually very helpful to cure loneliness.
There are also, of course, personal tricks you will learn that help you to feel content but those may take time to learn and so I would say, try a trick and learn how it helps you personally and then go from there. I do hope this all helps you, and just remember to know you’re not alone.
Saturday, January 9, 2010
A Teen Perspective on: Dealing with Impossible People
A Teen Perspective on: Dealing with Impossible People
By: KRae
Dealing with the impossible people can seem, well, impossible but there is truly no way around it. Unless you live in a perfect world where you only encounter with people you like, which I don’t think you do. So since you probably agree that somewhere along the line you have to deal with the impossible people, let’s discuss easier ways to do deal with that. Hopefully by reading this and applying what I am saying to those situations then dealing those people who drive you totally bunkers won’t seem so bad and will become easier. And also by doing this the stress level in your life will greatly decrease.
So first off, how to make “them” not seem so bad and impossible. Well there is the simply way of just pretending their not so bad. But I’m sure we can all agree that doesn’t work no matter how bad we try to make it work. So I highly encourage you to try this trick, it is working for me greatly and I do hope it works and helps you as well.
Try and imagine the worst possible person there would be to get along with and deal with (and I am not meaning in your life I mean the WORST possible personality there would be in the world to get along with.) Now write it down, in detail. Write things they would do, write habits they would have, write how you would argue with them. (Please note, I am meaning argue not fist fight.) Write down all that and also all the difficult, annoying and impossible things there would be about them. Now carry it with you in your wallet, pocket, purse or heck why not even a fanny pack. Just carry it with you and after your done dealing with an impossible person in your life, take it out, read it and realize they would be even worse. So, be grateful that they aren’t as bad as can be, and leave that situation a little saner about dealing with them.
Now if after you truly try that trick that should really help you with dealing with the impossible. And if that truly doesn’t help you at all then I got a cold hard possibility to tell you…You might be an impossible person yourself… you might simply be so fixed into how horrible others are that you have become semi impossible yourself by not truly trying to fix the problem or excepting they are human. Or that you rather need those impossible people in your life to help you feel good about yourself. I know you don’t want to hear that out and try and think and realize what I am talking about by my observations of others and dealing with others and the impossible already.
However; if you try the trick and it helps you a little or hey maybe even greatly either way you might even need a little more help. So I believe another thing that might help is you to try and simply forget about that stress in your life so rather than assuming every time you come within a mile of some of your impossible people that you will lose your mind. Try and think, relating back to your list, well maybe they won’t be SO bad since they wouldn’t possible get to my WORST person ever. Simply assuming they will be better than the past could help you greatly to be a little more calm and collective with your thoughts before encountering those impossible people. But I need to also warn you, some people, like myself, if we go into a situation assuming everything will be better then it usually is or was and then it turns out to be then we just get more upset for being “let down”. So if you believe you are like that than I would suggest before going into a situation where you have to deal with the impossible people that you read your paper before even seeing them so then you can be expecting the worst and then when they are clearly not as bad as can be you may feel relieved by that and that in itself by be what you need.
I hope these simply, yet frustrating things, will help you with dealing with the impossible people.
By: KRae
Dealing with the impossible people can seem, well, impossible but there is truly no way around it. Unless you live in a perfect world where you only encounter with people you like, which I don’t think you do. So since you probably agree that somewhere along the line you have to deal with the impossible people, let’s discuss easier ways to do deal with that. Hopefully by reading this and applying what I am saying to those situations then dealing those people who drive you totally bunkers won’t seem so bad and will become easier. And also by doing this the stress level in your life will greatly decrease.
So first off, how to make “them” not seem so bad and impossible. Well there is the simply way of just pretending their not so bad. But I’m sure we can all agree that doesn’t work no matter how bad we try to make it work. So I highly encourage you to try this trick, it is working for me greatly and I do hope it works and helps you as well.
Try and imagine the worst possible person there would be to get along with and deal with (and I am not meaning in your life I mean the WORST possible personality there would be in the world to get along with.) Now write it down, in detail. Write things they would do, write habits they would have, write how you would argue with them. (Please note, I am meaning argue not fist fight.) Write down all that and also all the difficult, annoying and impossible things there would be about them. Now carry it with you in your wallet, pocket, purse or heck why not even a fanny pack. Just carry it with you and after your done dealing with an impossible person in your life, take it out, read it and realize they would be even worse. So, be grateful that they aren’t as bad as can be, and leave that situation a little saner about dealing with them.
Now if after you truly try that trick that should really help you with dealing with the impossible. And if that truly doesn’t help you at all then I got a cold hard possibility to tell you…You might be an impossible person yourself… you might simply be so fixed into how horrible others are that you have become semi impossible yourself by not truly trying to fix the problem or excepting they are human. Or that you rather need those impossible people in your life to help you feel good about yourself. I know you don’t want to hear that out and try and think and realize what I am talking about by my observations of others and dealing with others and the impossible already.
However; if you try the trick and it helps you a little or hey maybe even greatly either way you might even need a little more help. So I believe another thing that might help is you to try and simply forget about that stress in your life so rather than assuming every time you come within a mile of some of your impossible people that you will lose your mind. Try and think, relating back to your list, well maybe they won’t be SO bad since they wouldn’t possible get to my WORST person ever. Simply assuming they will be better than the past could help you greatly to be a little more calm and collective with your thoughts before encountering those impossible people. But I need to also warn you, some people, like myself, if we go into a situation assuming everything will be better then it usually is or was and then it turns out to be then we just get more upset for being “let down”. So if you believe you are like that than I would suggest before going into a situation where you have to deal with the impossible people that you read your paper before even seeing them so then you can be expecting the worst and then when they are clearly not as bad as can be you may feel relieved by that and that in itself by be what you need.
I hope these simply, yet frustrating things, will help you with dealing with the impossible people.
Saturday, December 19, 2009
A Teen Perspective on:Staying Positive
A Teen Perspective on: Staying Positive
By: KRae
I would like to state that the simply yet hard task of staying positive actually relates mainly back to having appreciation. Because if you appreciate the people around you and how they are and the situations in your life than it will be relatively easy for you to stay positive. But on the other side of things you can appreciate the life you have and the people around you and still have a poor attitude about things or have a very hard time staying positive about things in those exact moments. So I would like to make a two points about being positive.
First off, being positive is more than just making sure you have a smile on your on your face. It’s your whole attitude. It’s being ok, calm, patient and peaceful with working late, taking out the trash or finding out you have a report due in the morning even though your first idea was to get mad and say “screw that!” Your attitude and positive feel in those situations will actually help not just those around you but it will greatly help yourself also. Because staying positive in those little situations, where you would usually tend to be mad or stressed about it, will help you to actually get through things faster and much easier.
Remember a simply attitude check can do a lot. And I know you have probably heard that many times growing up or maybe you even still do hear that quite often. But take it from me, no matter how stubborn you choose to be or how much you want to deny it, the people who say that, are right. Your attitude affects who and what you choose to be in times where life gets you down.
Now, maybe you have a hard time being positive in general. Maybe life and hard times have just got you so down that you not only ask why me, but you ask why let it go on longer? Well I would like to encourage you that, that also goes back to appreciating because even though things seem so down, you don’t even know how much worse it could be. So I strongly encourage you to stay positive with all of life. Trust me I have been there, where you are, wondering why but you need to stay positive about all and everything because your negative attitude and outlook on things only makes things worse over all and makes it so you can’t even try and look to see the good in things.
So be positive in big and little situations, remember to appreciate things, and never forget, a simply attitude check can do a lot on making sure you know and see the positive and express the positive you. Rather than being people down with being so negative.
By: KRae
I would like to state that the simply yet hard task of staying positive actually relates mainly back to having appreciation. Because if you appreciate the people around you and how they are and the situations in your life than it will be relatively easy for you to stay positive. But on the other side of things you can appreciate the life you have and the people around you and still have a poor attitude about things or have a very hard time staying positive about things in those exact moments. So I would like to make a two points about being positive.
First off, being positive is more than just making sure you have a smile on your on your face. It’s your whole attitude. It’s being ok, calm, patient and peaceful with working late, taking out the trash or finding out you have a report due in the morning even though your first idea was to get mad and say “screw that!” Your attitude and positive feel in those situations will actually help not just those around you but it will greatly help yourself also. Because staying positive in those little situations, where you would usually tend to be mad or stressed about it, will help you to actually get through things faster and much easier.
Remember a simply attitude check can do a lot. And I know you have probably heard that many times growing up or maybe you even still do hear that quite often. But take it from me, no matter how stubborn you choose to be or how much you want to deny it, the people who say that, are right. Your attitude affects who and what you choose to be in times where life gets you down.
Now, maybe you have a hard time being positive in general. Maybe life and hard times have just got you so down that you not only ask why me, but you ask why let it go on longer? Well I would like to encourage you that, that also goes back to appreciating because even though things seem so down, you don’t even know how much worse it could be. So I strongly encourage you to stay positive with all of life. Trust me I have been there, where you are, wondering why but you need to stay positive about all and everything because your negative attitude and outlook on things only makes things worse over all and makes it so you can’t even try and look to see the good in things.
So be positive in big and little situations, remember to appreciate things, and never forget, a simply attitude check can do a lot on making sure you know and see the positive and express the positive you. Rather than being people down with being so negative.
A Teen Perspective on: Handling Complication
A Teen Perspective on: Handling Complication
By: KRae
Complicated things happen all the time, without fail. But, it’s how we handle and react to those situations that show our true character. So I want to state some things that might help you with handling complicate things. Because, you see, knowing the best way to handle situations, in your unique way, is going to help you greatly on dealing with complicate and stressful times. So then you can be the best person you can be, even in the hard times.
Now I do believe we can all agree that hitting the wall or speeding up in traffic and cutting people off is probably not the best way to handle complication. So if we are all in agreement on that one than I would like to show some tricks and tips to handle stress and complication that some experienced and wise people do to help themselves in those situations. And I would also like to state a little about their personality also because, I will say once again, everyone is very different and therefore have different ways to handle what is stressful to them.
(Only first and last names initials and ages given)
K H 42
Personality-outgoing
K H admits they are very explosive but they do personally think that you need to get over with a complication and problematic situation as fast as possible, even if it means being rather explosive, or else the stress can build up and get worse later on.
This might not be the best way to handle things, because being explosive, in its self, is never a good thing. However I do agree that you need to not let problems build up to something you cannot control or into a situation that you won’t be able to control yourself.
J G 36
Personality-Quite, to their self, reserved
J G says to take quite time to think over the whole situation first before fighting or handling the situation
R W 39
Personality-Bold, outgoing, happy, go lucky
R W says during before and after a problem they just remember
“Except the things you can’t change,
Change the things you can,
And try for the wisdom to know the difference.”
Because R W says they fully believe that most stress is caused because people want control of complicated situations. So R W says to simply admit you are not in control of everything you want to be and admit some things you just can’t change.
I do in many ways agree with R Ws outlook on things. Because it is true, if we do not have control of others attitudes and stress that occurs we seem to maybe makes things a little worse than need be. So I want to encourage you, as does R W, to sometimes just let things be and move on doing simply yet oh so difficult thing will help you immensely in handle things you not truly handle.
K H 54
Personality-Calm, organized
K H says they think a lot about the situation and doesn’t make choices in the heat of the moment but chooses to look outside the situation in and then think fully on everything and then choice to go through with making a choice or finishing the problem.
T S 50
Personality-shy, comical
T S says to truly think through everything, from beginning to end. So like rather than being told something and then firing back with something, think your what you really want to say and hear what the others have to say through and through before actually opening your mouth. T S also says to try and keep a little since of humor, as to not stress yourself even more.
T S 47
Personality- Organized, logical and sequential (following or accompanying as a consequence)
T S says to look at situations and categorize it (like on a scale to one and ten) and evaluate it and if it’s truly important than try to see who/how it effects yourself and others and then make a decision to minimize negative impacts on either you or others. And T S says if it is not important on your scale after evaluating the situation, which most aren’t as important as you think in the heat of the moment that it is, than choose to simply say “oh well”.
J N 36
Personality-logical, to their self
J N says to talk about the situation with an outsider for their opinion. Just remember if you do choose to do J Ns tip than you need to talk to someone who will be truly honest, and who you will really listen to. Also J N says before making big choices they like to do homeopathic supplements to help cope with stress and clear there head.
C F 42
Personality-Very easy going
C F says to try simply have understanding and find a quit place for a little time to think and meditate. C F also says to always remember that in stressful times, fights and complication that you need to look for a progress not perfection.
T N 32
Personality-Easy going and simply tries to go with the flow
T N says to talk to someone who knows you really and will have your best interest at hand when giving you advice and listening to your complication.
G H 37
Personality-Out going and humorous
G H says to try for as little drama in situations as possible when trying to end the situation and realize life happens and you cannot be the center of the universe or fix everything or have everything go the way you feel they should.
L J 62
Personality-Optimistic (expecting the best in this best of all possible worlds) and quite
L J says to think a lot and consider all possibilities and to talk to someone whose opinion you value.
S P 36
Personality-Reserved, introverted (given to examining own sensory and perceptual experiences) logical, optimistic (expecting the best in this best of all possible worlds)
S P says to stop a stressful situation and take a few minutes to think everything through, and S P says if it’s stress having to do with a choice that they make a list or pros and cons for that decision. For emotional situations they say they talk to a friend to get an outsiders opinion and if the problem is related to other people (like fights and so on) to try and see their side and see the situation through their eyes.
As you can see depending on their personalities depended on how their best way to handle stress was. So what works for one person, or your parents or friends or peers, in handling stress or difficult choices and situations, might not work for another. And doing just what others say for you to do in a situation on handling stress might even cause things to end worse than they might of if you knew how to handle your stress correctly and how you need to do it best for you.
So whether you know you handle stress poorly, or whether you simply want to find a new, or better way to handle situations. I encourage you, and hope you will, and hope it will help you, to take a look at all of what they all have suggested and to look at the personalities and think about how they might relate to you. Then think about how even if one way doesn’t work, that you will try different ways till you find one that will help you handle complication better in the future.
By: KRae
Complicated things happen all the time, without fail. But, it’s how we handle and react to those situations that show our true character. So I want to state some things that might help you with handling complicate things. Because, you see, knowing the best way to handle situations, in your unique way, is going to help you greatly on dealing with complicate and stressful times. So then you can be the best person you can be, even in the hard times.
Now I do believe we can all agree that hitting the wall or speeding up in traffic and cutting people off is probably not the best way to handle complication. So if we are all in agreement on that one than I would like to show some tricks and tips to handle stress and complication that some experienced and wise people do to help themselves in those situations. And I would also like to state a little about their personality also because, I will say once again, everyone is very different and therefore have different ways to handle what is stressful to them.
(Only first and last names initials and ages given)
K H 42
Personality-outgoing
K H admits they are very explosive but they do personally think that you need to get over with a complication and problematic situation as fast as possible, even if it means being rather explosive, or else the stress can build up and get worse later on.
This might not be the best way to handle things, because being explosive, in its self, is never a good thing. However I do agree that you need to not let problems build up to something you cannot control or into a situation that you won’t be able to control yourself.
J G 36
Personality-Quite, to their self, reserved
J G says to take quite time to think over the whole situation first before fighting or handling the situation
R W 39
Personality-Bold, outgoing, happy, go lucky
R W says during before and after a problem they just remember
“Except the things you can’t change,
Change the things you can,
And try for the wisdom to know the difference.”
Because R W says they fully believe that most stress is caused because people want control of complicated situations. So R W says to simply admit you are not in control of everything you want to be and admit some things you just can’t change.
I do in many ways agree with R Ws outlook on things. Because it is true, if we do not have control of others attitudes and stress that occurs we seem to maybe makes things a little worse than need be. So I want to encourage you, as does R W, to sometimes just let things be and move on doing simply yet oh so difficult thing will help you immensely in handle things you not truly handle.
K H 54
Personality-Calm, organized
K H says they think a lot about the situation and doesn’t make choices in the heat of the moment but chooses to look outside the situation in and then think fully on everything and then choice to go through with making a choice or finishing the problem.
T S 50
Personality-shy, comical
T S says to truly think through everything, from beginning to end. So like rather than being told something and then firing back with something, think your what you really want to say and hear what the others have to say through and through before actually opening your mouth. T S also says to try and keep a little since of humor, as to not stress yourself even more.
T S 47
Personality- Organized, logical and sequential (following or accompanying as a consequence)
T S says to look at situations and categorize it (like on a scale to one and ten) and evaluate it and if it’s truly important than try to see who/how it effects yourself and others and then make a decision to minimize negative impacts on either you or others. And T S says if it is not important on your scale after evaluating the situation, which most aren’t as important as you think in the heat of the moment that it is, than choose to simply say “oh well”.
J N 36
Personality-logical, to their self
J N says to talk about the situation with an outsider for their opinion. Just remember if you do choose to do J Ns tip than you need to talk to someone who will be truly honest, and who you will really listen to. Also J N says before making big choices they like to do homeopathic supplements to help cope with stress and clear there head.
C F 42
Personality-Very easy going
C F says to try simply have understanding and find a quit place for a little time to think and meditate. C F also says to always remember that in stressful times, fights and complication that you need to look for a progress not perfection.
T N 32
Personality-Easy going and simply tries to go with the flow
T N says to talk to someone who knows you really and will have your best interest at hand when giving you advice and listening to your complication.
G H 37
Personality-Out going and humorous
G H says to try for as little drama in situations as possible when trying to end the situation and realize life happens and you cannot be the center of the universe or fix everything or have everything go the way you feel they should.
L J 62
Personality-Optimistic (expecting the best in this best of all possible worlds) and quite
L J says to think a lot and consider all possibilities and to talk to someone whose opinion you value.
S P 36
Personality-Reserved, introverted (given to examining own sensory and perceptual experiences) logical, optimistic (expecting the best in this best of all possible worlds)
S P says to stop a stressful situation and take a few minutes to think everything through, and S P says if it’s stress having to do with a choice that they make a list or pros and cons for that decision. For emotional situations they say they talk to a friend to get an outsiders opinion and if the problem is related to other people (like fights and so on) to try and see their side and see the situation through their eyes.
As you can see depending on their personalities depended on how their best way to handle stress was. So what works for one person, or your parents or friends or peers, in handling stress or difficult choices and situations, might not work for another. And doing just what others say for you to do in a situation on handling stress might even cause things to end worse than they might of if you knew how to handle your stress correctly and how you need to do it best for you.
So whether you know you handle stress poorly, or whether you simply want to find a new, or better way to handle situations. I encourage you, and hope you will, and hope it will help you, to take a look at all of what they all have suggested and to look at the personalities and think about how they might relate to you. Then think about how even if one way doesn’t work, that you will try different ways till you find one that will help you handle complication better in the future.
Sunday, November 22, 2009
A Teen Perspective on: Being You
A Teen Perspective on: Being You
By: KRae
The definition of Peer pressure, according to dictionary.com, is “Pressure from one's peers to behave in a manner similar or acceptable to them.”
So basically, as we all probably already know, it means to conform to what other people want you to be like. This is ridicules, for many different reasons. I mean, answer me these few questions.
• If parents, teachers, significant others, bosses, or leaders try to get you to be different then who you are, what happens?
• Do you get mad, or disappointed in yourself, or disappointed in them for not simply accepting you for you?
• So, if you get so mad at those people who want you to change, then why is it okay for your friends or a group of people to do the same thing?
The answer to that last question is “it’s not okay”. Well that simply answer of “no”, which I hope you agree with, is what I want to touch on for this article.
You see, there is nothing wrong with wanting people to simply like you for who you are. And there is also nothing wrong with changing yourself for what you know you need to be or what you simply want to be. But there is something wrong with changing who you are for what others say or think you need to be in order to fit in or get them to like you more.
Now you might not see changing yourself because others say you need to as something that’s wrong. But later in life, or hopefully by the time you’re done reading this, you will realize what I’m meaning. Because I believe it is actually quite simply, why change yourself for people who don’t just like you the way you are. Why not just wait and find the friends or the group of people who truly accept you for who you are. And then when you find that group you will see how happy it makes you to find those true real friends. Rather than fake friends who pressured you into being who they wanted you to be or do what they said you needed to do.
Although I would like to explain that, just simply being who you are and not changing yourself for others has a lot to do with your self esteem and how you see yourself. So I do encourage you to maybe read, or reread, the article on esteem I have written. Because I do promise you that if you stay true to yourself then you will find the others who are true to themselves and like you for you.
But please do not make the mistake of thinking because I am saying to just be yourself then that means your parents or leaders or anyone who is truly important in your life are wrong in any way for telling or expressing to you what they feel you need to be. Because believe me they might know you almost a little better then you do. Or maybe they at least know what is truly best for you, or what will help you most in the long run. So don’t shut out the people who want to truly help you, just try and learn to recognize the difference of the two types of people. And then when you can recognize the types of people that want to change you than you will be able to know who means best for you and who just wants you to change.
So be yourself, don’t change for the ones who don’t matter. But do, be open to hearing what the ones who care about you are saying. How they feel, what they think will help you to be who you truly are, or what would benefit you by being the way that’s best, for you.
By: KRae
The definition of Peer pressure, according to dictionary.com, is “Pressure from one's peers to behave in a manner similar or acceptable to them.”
So basically, as we all probably already know, it means to conform to what other people want you to be like. This is ridicules, for many different reasons. I mean, answer me these few questions.
• If parents, teachers, significant others, bosses, or leaders try to get you to be different then who you are, what happens?
• Do you get mad, or disappointed in yourself, or disappointed in them for not simply accepting you for you?
• So, if you get so mad at those people who want you to change, then why is it okay for your friends or a group of people to do the same thing?
The answer to that last question is “it’s not okay”. Well that simply answer of “no”, which I hope you agree with, is what I want to touch on for this article.
You see, there is nothing wrong with wanting people to simply like you for who you are. And there is also nothing wrong with changing yourself for what you know you need to be or what you simply want to be. But there is something wrong with changing who you are for what others say or think you need to be in order to fit in or get them to like you more.
Now you might not see changing yourself because others say you need to as something that’s wrong. But later in life, or hopefully by the time you’re done reading this, you will realize what I’m meaning. Because I believe it is actually quite simply, why change yourself for people who don’t just like you the way you are. Why not just wait and find the friends or the group of people who truly accept you for who you are. And then when you find that group you will see how happy it makes you to find those true real friends. Rather than fake friends who pressured you into being who they wanted you to be or do what they said you needed to do.
Although I would like to explain that, just simply being who you are and not changing yourself for others has a lot to do with your self esteem and how you see yourself. So I do encourage you to maybe read, or reread, the article on esteem I have written. Because I do promise you that if you stay true to yourself then you will find the others who are true to themselves and like you for you.
But please do not make the mistake of thinking because I am saying to just be yourself then that means your parents or leaders or anyone who is truly important in your life are wrong in any way for telling or expressing to you what they feel you need to be. Because believe me they might know you almost a little better then you do. Or maybe they at least know what is truly best for you, or what will help you most in the long run. So don’t shut out the people who want to truly help you, just try and learn to recognize the difference of the two types of people. And then when you can recognize the types of people that want to change you than you will be able to know who means best for you and who just wants you to change.
So be yourself, don’t change for the ones who don’t matter. But do, be open to hearing what the ones who care about you are saying. How they feel, what they think will help you to be who you truly are, or what would benefit you by being the way that’s best, for you.
Tuesday, November 17, 2009
A Teen perspective on: Appreciation
A Teen Perspective on: Appreciation
By:KRae
This is a short article about simply appreciation and I do feel it is something most people need to do more so please read and truly think about the things I am saying.
Now,the generalized topic of appreciation can cover many different thing, your appreciation of things, and of others, and of course many more. But those are the two main issues I would like to touch on.
So first off, your appreciation of things. I could be simple and come right out and say, SUCK IT UP, stop complaining and appreciate life and what you’re given in life. Or, I could be a little more understanding and say just be thankful for what you have. Because you never truly know when it will all slip away, or when you could have it all swept away from right under your feet.
You see I do understand where you are coming from. I have been through things in my life that made me wonder why me? and made me wonder how I would even be able to handle anymore at all. Rather than being thankful that I made it through the situations. I like most people wished for a difference, different things, different circumstances, different everything. But I have, and I hope this article will help you also to see the truth. The truth that there is always something worse that could happen or could of happened. There is always someway that u get off easy even when you don’t realize it. And I fully believe if you just try to look for those ways, that you will see too, why you need to be appreciative. And if that doesn’t work then I encourage you to realize that the bad could become horrible, the horrible could deadly or worse. So think about that and please realize that, no matter how bad things get, you have it easier then someone else out there.
Now, the next kind of appreciation I want to talk a little about is appreciating other. And please trust me when I say, I know how you feel about people who drive you totally insane, people you can never get along with, people who are just annoying, and just people in general sometimes. And it is understandable to just not get along with certain people because some people are annoying, or rude, or inconsiderate, or full of themselves, or selfish. Sometimes personalities just don’t work well together at all. But I want to encourage you to still appreciate the people who drive you mad.
I’m sure now you’re expecting me to say, what if they weren’t there or something happened to them? But I know firsthand that sometimes you do wish that something would just happen to them. But there are more reasons to appreciate the people who you can’t stand or who have hurt you in life such as, maybe they need you. Or, deep down inside you, even if you don’t realize it, you need that little insanity in your life. So maybe it’s as simple as you all actually help each other in very off and different ways. So no matter what way someone is, you need to appreciate them for who they are and what they do to affect your life. Because never forget they could be replaced with someone else, and things could get even worse.
By:KRae
This is a short article about simply appreciation and I do feel it is something most people need to do more so please read and truly think about the things I am saying.
Now,the generalized topic of appreciation can cover many different thing, your appreciation of things, and of others, and of course many more. But those are the two main issues I would like to touch on.
So first off, your appreciation of things. I could be simple and come right out and say, SUCK IT UP, stop complaining and appreciate life and what you’re given in life. Or, I could be a little more understanding and say just be thankful for what you have. Because you never truly know when it will all slip away, or when you could have it all swept away from right under your feet.
You see I do understand where you are coming from. I have been through things in my life that made me wonder why me? and made me wonder how I would even be able to handle anymore at all. Rather than being thankful that I made it through the situations. I like most people wished for a difference, different things, different circumstances, different everything. But I have, and I hope this article will help you also to see the truth. The truth that there is always something worse that could happen or could of happened. There is always someway that u get off easy even when you don’t realize it. And I fully believe if you just try to look for those ways, that you will see too, why you need to be appreciative. And if that doesn’t work then I encourage you to realize that the bad could become horrible, the horrible could deadly or worse. So think about that and please realize that, no matter how bad things get, you have it easier then someone else out there.
Now, the next kind of appreciation I want to talk a little about is appreciating other. And please trust me when I say, I know how you feel about people who drive you totally insane, people you can never get along with, people who are just annoying, and just people in general sometimes. And it is understandable to just not get along with certain people because some people are annoying, or rude, or inconsiderate, or full of themselves, or selfish. Sometimes personalities just don’t work well together at all. But I want to encourage you to still appreciate the people who drive you mad.
I’m sure now you’re expecting me to say, what if they weren’t there or something happened to them? But I know firsthand that sometimes you do wish that something would just happen to them. But there are more reasons to appreciate the people who you can’t stand or who have hurt you in life such as, maybe they need you. Or, deep down inside you, even if you don’t realize it, you need that little insanity in your life. So maybe it’s as simple as you all actually help each other in very off and different ways. So no matter what way someone is, you need to appreciate them for who they are and what they do to affect your life. Because never forget they could be replaced with someone else, and things could get even worse.
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