A Teen Perspective on:Dreaming
When you were little you probably wanted to do something special when you “got big.” You might have been so happy, proud and certain of what you wanted to be, just like these little ones.
(Only giving initials and ages)A P, 8, wants to be a baby nurse and she is most certain that it is what she wants to be, however; A P says she is only “sorta excited” about it, maybe that is because people have already downed on her dreams.
M H, 9, wants to be a dance instructor and singer, I asked M H, “If something bad happened to you and it made dancing and singing very difficult for you, would you give up on being a dancer and singer?” M H answered saying she would “never give up her dream.”
N N, 8, wants to be a vet, K S, 8, wants to be a teacher, V J, 13, a dental hygienist, T B, 14 wants to be on Broadway, and they all said the same thing, that they would never give up on their dream.
These young children are probably the same way you were when you were younger. You had dreams. Dreams you were so certain would be fulfilled. Things you were so sure you would of done by now. Well, their dreams will probably fail, their certainty will probably fade away, just like yours did.
Why though? Why did things change? Well lots of times, people just change, they come up with new wants, plans, desires and needs. So, their ideas of what job they wanted or what they wanted to be, also changed. And situations like that are, of course, typical and understandable. There is absolutely nothing wrong with changing what you want to be a million times, before you finally make the choice you absolutely want (probably don’t change a million times if your already in college or something like that, but you get what I mean, I hope).
But, what about the other times people’s dreams change? What about when friends, parents or society, try to talk “reality” with them? What about when people trash those dreams? Well, things like this happen a lot and it’s sad how it ruins people’s spirits and crushes their dreams. That situation is, I believe, unacceptable. And I want it all to stop, so I want you to forget about reality. I want you to be who you are and dream the dream you have. Or make a dream, realistic or not. Weather you complete the dream or not, is not the problem, its weather you even dreamed at all, or had things in your life to aspire to that matters. So please, don’t let the world down on your dreams any more than they already have, just believe in yourself and figure out your true dreams for your life, and then, never let go of those dreams.
Now,maybe you did have dreams, maybe they were wonderful dreams, but hurt or pain in your life stopped you from living the dream you wanted. Well, these times are excitable, because it is the persons soul choice, but it is heartbreaking. I think that although you have been hurt, although you have been broken, you still have the right, and somewhere down inside you, you have the desire, to dream like a child again.
I gave up on certain dreams in my life a long time ago, because of pain, hurt, and heartache. But I realized, no matter how bad things get, believing in a dream for my life, believing things would get better, trusting that they would, was a dream I needed to have. And that is why, no matter what, we all need to dream.
So ask yourself, why not dream big for my life? Why not thrive for that job or life style I want?
I believe you need to go for it, I say dream your dream and live your life to the fullest that your dreams can take you. Get past peoples “realities”, get past your own doubts, get past how most people have given up on their dreams, or how you did at one point too, get past other peoples actions. Just, get past it all and think for a little while, what do I want when I grow up?
Here are some people who don’t have the same dreams they did when they were younger, and some weren’t even having dreams to live for, or look forward to now. So when I asked them “what do you want to be when you grow up?” some had to think of things, make new dreams, or just remember old ones.
K Y, 46, wants to be at full peace and have no regrets.
K D, 39, wants to be stronger and more secure.
R W, 38, wants to be a personal trainer.
L M, 47, wants to have a day off.
J E, 37, wants to be fully successful in raising her kids.
S W, 67, wants to learn to play the piano.
L B, 41, wants to simply make sure her two daughters find good men.
G S, 46, wants to travel.
C K, 38, wants to go to nursing school.
A S, 38, wants to be healthier and lose weight.
And last but not least, M L, 65, who says “I am living my dream”, being retired.
So finally, I don’t care if you are a teen, adult, or if you’re even only young at heart. I believe you need to forget what others have said and just open your eyes and see that you deserve the happiness of being able to dream, and even, fulfill those dreams.