tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-43550417371876607182024-02-20T11:04:50.994-08:00A Teen PerspectiveA Teens Perspectivehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06655806587083074567noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4355041737187660718.post-34170700548442826512010-08-08T21:42:00.000-07:002010-08-08T21:49:52.122-07:00A Teen Perspective on: Enjoying the SceneryA Teen Perspective on: Enjoying the Scenery<br />By: KRae<br /><br />This is a short article but something I feel most of all of us need to be reminded of. The topic is enjoying the scenery you see there is a difference between noticing your surroundings and noticing the weather rather than enjoying the scenery. See I honestly believe that so many of us, most of the time without realizing it, just stop caring or enjoying the scenery around us.<br /><br />Think back to when we were all kids, we would get amazed at a great cloud, big tree or bright flower. Well it seems to me that to so many of us our world has gotten foggy small and dull at first glances, and then we stop to look a second time. Well I want to simple encourage you to start enjoying the scenery again. Or if you really think you already do then notice it more or bring up what you notice to those around you so they can be amazed too.<br /><br />And if you’re not sure if you notice it or not then start noticing the beauty around you again, because even if you live in the sun stricken dessert or a busy city or any and everywhere in general, there is beauty all around you.<br /><br />I am going to name a few places I want you to think about this place the most beautiful way it could possibly be than sometime soon go out and try to find it just the way you pictured it.<br /><br />Beauty in the green filled areas. . .<br />Beauty in the rainy clouds. . .<br />Beauty in the business of the city. . .<br />Beauty close by. . .<br />Beauty far away. . .<br />And even beauty in unexpected places. . .A Teens Perspectivehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06655806587083074567noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4355041737187660718.post-74055356032283633422010-05-09T14:53:00.000-07:002010-05-09T14:56:09.562-07:00A Teen Perspective on: Views of Life and DeathA Teen Perspective on: Views of Life and Death<br />By: KRae<br /><br />Some people look at life one way and death a totally different way, others see it all as one complete process and some couldn’t care less.<br /><br />Well I know the way I look at life and death but I was very curious wondering if my views were the same or far from others thoughts on life and death and how to view it or think of it. so I decised to go ask people what they think and then write about it. so basically this article I wrote simply because most all of us wonder at some point or another about life, about death, about how we think and handle both of those and how others do.<br /><br />So first off, some people when I asked them if I could talk to them and ask them a couple questions and explained myself and all they were excited then when I told them the subject, life and death, they went completely blank, not knowing anything to say. And honestly what faith does that give us all in the thought of life and death? Does it give us any at all? I’m not sure but really who could blame them anyways, even if they did know exactly what they wanted to say the topic of life and worse death is an uncomfortable topic. But it can be even worse if you’re not sure what you would say, which many people weren’t. So I hope reading this might open your mind to others thinking and the confidence in your own thinking.<br /><br />(Please note for privacy only the first and last name initials and age is given)<br />A B 24 when I asked about death didn’t know what to say or think about it A B said I guess we just go back where we all came from. And when I asked about life A B said just live life to the fullest and stay positive.<br /><br />Even though that is great advice about life can no assurance in death give you a fear to truly live?<br /><br />N T 56 when I asked about death simply answered; don’t worry about death life for life and about life N T said choose what you’re living for in life.<br /><br /> M L 35 when I asked about death said I’m not scared of death cause I know where I’m going, M L feels you need to be confident in where you are going, I would agree and I am confident are you? When I asked M L about life M L answered; life would be simpler if people could realize happiness comes from inside you not outside help or people.<br /><br />J S 17 when I asked about death said I don’t think people should worry about death. But I ask how can people not worry about something that will happen and there is no way out of it?<br /><br />About life J S answered life is about valuing people in your life and doing this is living life to the fullest.<br /><br />S W 24 when I asked about death said most people just get sick of life and want to die but life is a gift and you need to treat it and value it like one without wanting death sooner. When I asked life S W answered life is strange, people have to find the general truth and people really have to find their own personal truth in life also.<br /><br />I agree with S W life is a gift, after all its called the present, so why don’t we value it like one?<br /><br />Lastly I want to say that life is like a flame… if you think that your flame will burn long you usually will burn dimmer because you won’t cherish it as much and burn as bright. But if know or understand that your flame won’t last long, then you tend to burn bright because you appreciate the time your given. So why not act like your flame might die out because any of us at any time might have our own flame die out into the darkness and regret the fact that we never appreciated the flame correctly.A Teens Perspectivehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06655806587083074567noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4355041737187660718.post-18040387035020942412010-04-21T16:38:00.000-07:002010-04-21T16:42:17.293-07:00A Teen Perspective on: Reasons WhyA Teen Perspective on: Reasons Why<br /> By: KRae<br /><br /> Ever wonder what might be some reasons that you are or do things the way you are or do them?<br /><br />Well in this article I want to maybe give a few examples (very simple or broad range, please keep in mind) for why you may be or act the way you do.<br />To start, this is a very touchy and sensitive subject, sex. <br /><br />Why sometimes do people feel so pressured to just do it? Well, it could stem back to your past maybe you either saw people or were a person who needed to earn love or earn the right to be liked by people, whether it be parents, friends, siblings or anything. So maybe because of this “earning” that you saw or had to do you believe, even just believe in the back of your mind, that you need to earn the right to be in a relationship or be fully committed to a person. So you decide this is the way you need to do it. Well, here is something else you can do to work on that whisper in the back of your head telling you need to earn that person by having sex or doing sexual things. Decide that to “earn” that person you will work on noticing and acting on little things that person likes, such as; if that person likes snacks surprise them with their favorite ones often, or if that person is tense a lot then help them by rubbing their shoulders without them asking and so on. These little acts of love will help you earn them, and will mean just as much to them as other things, if they are a good person. But please keep in mind, if they are just with you for you need to earn (and some people can see right through you and can tell you are this need to earn type person) then they will not understand or like that you want to love them without “loving” them.<br /><br />Or maybe you feel you need to have sex because you are simply needy for no reason (although this neediness is indeed usually caused by past neglect or abuse, I will briefly touch on this a little later on) well in this case your brain is simply in need and has picked this to be what it is in need of. If this sounds like your reason on why you choose to pursue sex or any broad range of sexual desires, such as porn or so on, then train yourself to be needy about something else like control of the remote or you be the one picking the movie or where to go and so on.<br /><br />It may also be because it is the way of the world right now. Well first, is that ever a good reason to do something? Because everyone else is, or because the world tells you to or tells you how great it is that you need to? No its not. Why? Because the world right now influences you to do many things that in the long run will ruin your life and also influences you to think that the ones whose lives the media has ruined, is great. Please realize that this is not a good reason to do or want to do something because what does the media not show you? The hurt feelings of the next one you sleep with, the difficulty of you or your girl becoming pregnant, the way your parents look at you, the way your reputation can be so easily ruined and even diseases or HPV and cancer. <br /><br />Also I would like to say that sex and wants and desires might also be from influence to strongly in the home, family influence of this kind includes abuse and or neglect or even neglect of time which therefore makes you need or simply want to be wanted. This urge can be cured by strong emotional connections. So you simply need to realize and admit why you have this urge to be fulfilled and choose to change the urge to needing to be fulfilled emotionally by family friends or still that relationship status but by making it an emotional connection rather than just a physical one.<br /><br />Also I need to say, don’t let anything or anyone fool you, having sex for the wrong reasons will not work out well, ever. Either you or the other will move on because it is simply the wrong reasons, it is the secret reasons the back of your mind is telling you to do it but it is not the correct reasons or the reasons the front of your mind needs to know to decide if something is good or bad.<br /><br />So why not wait for the right reasons, why not wait for there to be no reasons in your head telling you not to?<br /><br /><br /><br />Next thing I want to talk about is more of a broad thing which mainly stems from family influence and peer pressure, self destructive problem habits, such as drugs, drinking and smoking.<br /><br />One way family can influence you to either now or later on wind up doing these oh so common problems, is just acting like its ok. Let’s all admit it, bad habits your parents or family have, a lot of the time seem horrible to you and then what happens??? Do we start doing the same?? Lots of times yes we do, and it is very sad. If this is the case for why you may have these problems then I am sorry to say but, from what I have seen, these are the hardest habits to break simply because you grew up with it being ok so you therefore, even if you don’t want to admit it, make it ok in your mind as well. Now don’t get me wrong I am not saying that if yours parents have an addiction or problem habit that you are downright bound to get it, because that is far from true. What I am saying is that if you already do the same as they do and you want to stop that you will most likely have a harder time stopping because of your family experience growing up. Honestly the only way I believe truly works in this case is you standing up and making the choice that you will stop your problem habit no matter what and then find outside help! Please listen to me you need someone who will keep you stay on the ball and someone who you can go to if you find yourself falling from your on point decision of stopping.<br /><br />Now, problem habits can also strongly come from peer pressure, which for many is harder to deal with than any other influence or pressure they will ever deal with. Some people (you may be this person) just can’t say no and others will just do anything to be accepted. If you are this type of person then you need to realize that true friends take you as is….. And same as the media, music, TV and movie influences of sex, why just do it because everyone else is? Because what do others not bring up? The bad choices you can make while under the influence, arrest, injury to yourself or others even others you love, addiction, jail time, or even death.<br /><br />Another thing that might make you do these problem habits (including the topic of sex I brought up before) is you needing an outlet for life. Well if you think maybe this is what makes you do or act certain ways then I say you need to find a habit, sport or game that you can go to when stressed. And if you go to that instead of the other things as your outlet then at parties, at home or even simply being offered a chance to once again fall into your problem habits really won’t seem like such a need to do thing and this can strongly help you to make wiser choices in peer pressure situations because you simply won’t need to do those things as badly.<br /><br /><br /><br />Lastly I want to talk about how your loss of family time as a child or bad family time could of led you to anger problems, by maybe witnessing or experiencing anger problems at a young age or growing up in doubt and worry. Growing in doubt and worry could have maybe been because of an unstable life or unstable feelings of life due to divorce of parents at a young age, simply parent troubles, loss of family, money troubles or health troubles with in the family or yourself as well. Not only can these things lead you to anger but it may also have led you to depression or even just a want to be alone and feeling you don’t need others or want others to keep you going or make you happy. Solving these problems are difficult, I can tell you that right now, because they stem much deeper within yourself. But one way you can start the process of solving this is finding something that doesn’t make you forget your pain and loneliness (I say this because so many people, me included, did or do try to forget pain in life rather than solve it or be ok with it) instead try and not care about it entirely, this may be again a hobby such as art, music, writing, sports, games, fixing things, helping others, walking or just great friends that are really true friends.A Teens Perspectivehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06655806587083074567noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4355041737187660718.post-30878260999928839292010-03-30T18:36:00.000-07:002010-03-30T18:38:11.075-07:00A Teen Perspective on: Getting HelpA Teen Perspective on: Getting Help<br /> By: KRae<br /><br />This article is a little different then what I usually do with these articles but please bear with me and open your mind to truly receiving what I’m trying to say.<br /><br /> When she looks in the mirror she hears her personal whispers about herself. She wonders and makes stories, better than her own, about what she wishes really happened and what she wishes never did. How did these scares get here? What drove me to hurt myself? How could I let this happen? She looks herself up and down telling herself, I am still beautiful. She tries to convince herself the lies one day will be set right and the scares one day will disappear. <br /><br />She does know what really happened and she knows that people believe, exactly what she was told to say, and what at one point she believe also. But when things fade away the foggy clouds leave and the truth in the sky is revealed.<br /><br />The truth is she was hurt. The truth is she didn’t have control. The truth is she was scared. The truth is she didn’t know what to do. The truth is… a lie.<br />The truth is, she needed help. She tried to gain control and help herself. But the truth is it didn’t work. She lost control and only found true control with outside help. <br /><br />Now I’m telling you, she regrets not finding help sooner, so you go, find the help you need, be willing to ask for help, be willing to gain true control.<br /><br /><br /><br />When he is lying in bed trying to fall asleep he rethinks everything. Running things through his mind, why did I do that? Why did that happen? What could have happened?<br />He fears and is confident about the future. The same way he fears and is confident about the present and even his past.<br /><br />He worries about who sees him, and if they see him the way he wants to be seen or feels he needs to be seen. He worries about being the best, for himself, for them, for her. He thinks being the best is great. Why not strive for it? But he rethinks his actions; he rethinks how he brings others down or even brings her down. He thinks about his words and how they don’t really change him, just how others see him. He wonders will she change if he doesn’t. He worries more, rethinking the details worried about how his strive to be seen as best will eventually tear her down and push her away all because he brings her down just to lift himself up.<br /><br />He knows he can’t truly be the best, even if he is. He knows his worry won’t change unless he does. He knows this urge to have to be the best is just that, an urge, it isn’t demanded or truly expected. He knows he might need help to realize he is the best at some but never all, even if he is, or isn’t at anything. He knows when he wakes up tomorrow he will most likely go back to striving to much and bringing others down to hard. He knows that won’t work forever. But he also knows unless his confidence can be boosted with outside help it never will be. Because he knows he can win or score but in the long run that won’t do anything. So why hurt himself and why hurt her? <br /><br />He knows he needs help, do you? Find the help you need, be willing to ask for help, be willing to gain true confidence.<br /><br /><br /><br />Now I would like to say, these stories can be swapped, these genders can be changed. These are generalized testimonies to help give you another perspective.<br /><br />If you need to talk, if you need advice, or if you need help, talk to me, or another. Just be willing to get the help you feel you need.A Teens Perspectivehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06655806587083074567noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4355041737187660718.post-83335912280141355222010-01-29T11:21:00.000-08:002010-01-29T11:23:17.235-08:00A Teen Perspective on: Time managementA Teen Perspective on: Time management<br />By: KRae<br /><br />Managing your time to some can come as easy as washing your hands but I have noticed that lots of my friends seem to have a very difficult time managing their time. And that is why I felt I needed to write a little article just to try and help out.<br /><br />So, if you are one of these people where procrastinating comes more naturally to you than anything else (or if you just need help managing your time) than please I do ask you to continue reading because this might do some good for you.<br /><br />A Big thing that I believe will help you in managing your time is to, either in your head or on paper, categorize what takes up your time in lists or numbered rankings, by importance.<br /><br /> Example, work and or school are, or should be, pretty darn high on your list or ranking. And getting a new achievement on a game or updating friends on the latest gossip should be pretty low, weather you want to admit it or not. I’m assuming your getting my point.<br /><br />After you have everything categorized try and set up time blocks to do what you need to do. But make sure you have your lower ranked time as well, or you will become completely over run day to day. Because if you leave out simple relaxation, you could start to do far more harm on your body, or even make it hard for you to have any of your sleep time(which if you oversleep than lower sleeps ranking, and if you under sleep then boost it up a number or two.) <br /><br />If you are, or want to be, a more organized person than I highly suggest making a journal, like a calendar, of your time and how it should, and needs to be handled properly.<br /><br />All else fails have one full day of nothing but your top ranked things, figure out “hey I lived without that other stuff” then manage your time again according to this new found since of,” I don’t need those low ranked things nearly as much as I thought I needed them, and I get a lot more out of a productive day than I thought I would. Or maybe you won’t sound anything like that but still will enjoy having a very productive day now and then.<br /><br />Now make a plan stick to it and enjoy managed time.<br /><strong></strong><strong></strong><strong></strong><strong></strong>A Teens Perspectivehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06655806587083074567noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4355041737187660718.post-30564486128887220202010-01-22T11:34:00.000-08:002010-01-22T11:36:10.060-08:00A Teen Perspective on: Being Content in LonelinessA Teen Perspective on: Being Content in Loneliness<br /><br />Being content can mean lots of different things but the way I am going to touch on is, being content through the loneliness. You see I have and have seen far too many people, feel far too lonely and therefore it is something I feel most all of us could use a little help on.<br /><br /><br />So to start with, realize you aren’t alone. You may feel alone physically or emotionally but even if you are fully alone someone else out in the world is also. If you can realize or try and imagine that you’re not the only lonely person than that should help you to not feel so alone. For example if you are lonely because of a break up try and think about how, even if they left you for another, they may be feeling as lonely as you do right now as well. Or, if you feel lonely because of a death than realize how many other people die in a day and how lonely the other people who knew them feel as well. You see simply feeling alone is bad but feeling you are the only one alone can be even worse. So realize you aren’t the only one alone and you should then start to feel at least a little better about it all.<br /><br /><br />But maybe you are more of a busy body and you are just feeling lonely because you’re not out and about with friends or just busy working. Well if this since of loneliness seems like you than I encourage you to find a hobby. Something you can do easily and alone at home when you aren’t busy out and about. Things like making card castles, drawing, writing, even hitting a ball against the wall or just collecting things or learning an instrument, anything you think you might enjoy and then can and will do when you feel lonely when you are at home at the end of a very packed day. If a hobby doesn’t sound the most appealing then you can make a list of movies or TV shows you have wanted to see and when you feel lonely pop one in.<br /><br /><br />But maybe you feel lonely due to lack of friends or at least lack of close friends. In which case maybe you need to simply reconnect with an old friend, make a friend a closer friend or just make new friends. Just find a friend so then the two of you or a group of friends can keep each other company on those days you feel you need people around because of loneliness. <br /><br /><br />Another little trick might be to get a pet. Something easy to take care of that will just be there. Or even a dog that will take up even more of your time and entertain you in the lonely times. Maybe that is what you need. Or maybe a cat to waist your money…kidding… cats are actually very helpful to cure loneliness. <br /><br /><br />There are also, of course, personal tricks you will learn that help you to feel content but those may take time to learn and so I would say, try a trick and learn how it helps you personally and then go from there. I do hope this all helps you, and just remember to know you’re not alone.<br /><strong></strong>A Teens Perspectivehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06655806587083074567noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4355041737187660718.post-92076961195466271822010-01-09T21:45:00.000-08:002010-01-09T21:55:21.539-08:00A Teen Perspective on: Dealing with Impossible PeopleA Teen Perspective on: Dealing with Impossible People<br />By: KRae<br /><br />Dealing with the impossible people can seem, well, impossible but there is truly no way around it. Unless you live in a perfect world where you only encounter with people you like, which I don’t think you do. So since you probably agree that somewhere along the line you have to deal with the impossible people, let’s discuss easier ways to do deal with that. Hopefully by reading this and applying what I am saying to those situations then dealing those people who drive you totally bunkers won’t seem so bad and will become easier. And also by doing this the stress level in your life will greatly decrease.<br /><br />So first off, how to make “them” not seem so bad and impossible. Well there is the simply way of just pretending their not so bad. But I’m sure we can all agree that doesn’t work no matter how bad we try to make it work. So I highly encourage you to try this trick, it is working for me greatly and I do hope it works and helps you as well.<br /><br />Try and imagine the worst possible person there would be to get along with and deal with (and I am not meaning in your life I mean the WORST possible personality there would be in the world to get along with.) Now write it down, in detail. Write things they would do, write habits they would have, write how you would argue with them. (Please note, I am meaning argue not fist fight.) Write down all that and also all the difficult, annoying and impossible things there would be about them. Now carry it with you in your wallet, pocket, purse or heck why not even a fanny pack. Just carry it with you and after your done dealing with an impossible person in your life, take it out, read it and realize they would be even worse. So, be grateful that they aren’t as bad as can be, and leave that situation a little saner about dealing with them.<br /><br />Now if after you truly try that trick that should really help you with dealing with the impossible. And if that truly doesn’t help you at all then I got a cold hard possibility to tell you…You might be an impossible person yourself… you might simply be so fixed into how horrible others are that you have become semi impossible yourself by not truly trying to fix the problem or excepting they are human. Or that you rather need those impossible people in your life to help you feel good about yourself. I know you don’t want to hear that out and try and think and realize what I am talking about by my observations of others and dealing with others and the impossible already.<br /><br />However; if you try the trick and it helps you a little or hey maybe even greatly either way you might even need a little more help. So I believe another thing that might help is you to try and simply forget about that stress in your life so rather than assuming every time you come within a mile of some of your impossible people that you will lose your mind. Try and think, relating back to your list, well maybe they won’t be SO bad since they wouldn’t possible get to my WORST person ever. Simply assuming they will be better than the past could help you greatly to be a little more calm and collective with your thoughts before encountering those impossible people. But I need to also warn you, some people, like myself, if we go into a situation assuming everything will be better then it usually is or was and then it turns out to be then we just get more upset for being “let down”. So if you believe you are like that than I would suggest before going into a situation where you have to deal with the impossible people that you read your paper before even seeing them so then you can be expecting the worst and then when they are clearly not as bad as can be you may feel relieved by that and that in itself by be what you need.<br /><br />I hope these simply, yet frustrating things, will help you with dealing with the impossible people.A Teens Perspectivehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06655806587083074567noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4355041737187660718.post-19579230872117729732009-12-19T02:09:00.001-08:002009-12-19T02:09:46.715-08:00A Teen Perspective on:Staying PositiveA Teen Perspective on: Staying Positive<br />By: KRae<br />I would like to state that the simply yet hard task of staying positive actually relates mainly back to having appreciation. Because if you appreciate the people around you and how they are and the situations in your life than it will be relatively easy for you to stay positive. But on the other side of things you can appreciate the life you have and the people around you and still have a poor attitude about things or have a very hard time staying positive about things in those exact moments. So I would like to make a two points about being positive.<br />First off, being positive is more than just making sure you have a smile on your on your face. It’s your whole attitude. It’s being ok, calm, patient and peaceful with working late, taking out the trash or finding out you have a report due in the morning even though your first idea was to get mad and say “screw that!” Your attitude and positive feel in those situations will actually help not just those around you but it will greatly help yourself also. Because staying positive in those little situations, where you would usually tend to be mad or stressed about it, will help you to actually get through things faster and much easier. <br />Remember a simply attitude check can do a lot. And I know you have probably heard that many times growing up or maybe you even still do hear that quite often. But take it from me, no matter how stubborn you choose to be or how much you want to deny it, the people who say that, are right. Your attitude affects who and what you choose to be in times where life gets you down. <br />Now, maybe you have a hard time being positive in general. Maybe life and hard times have just got you so down that you not only ask why me, but you ask why let it go on longer? Well I would like to encourage you that, that also goes back to appreciating because even though things seem so down, you don’t even know how much worse it could be. So I strongly encourage you to stay positive with all of life. Trust me I have been there, where you are, wondering why but you need to stay positive about all and everything because your negative attitude and outlook on things only makes things worse over all and makes it so you can’t even try and look to see the good in things.<br />So be positive in big and little situations, remember to appreciate things, and never forget, a simply attitude check can do a lot on making sure you know and see the positive and express the positive you. Rather than being people down with being so negative.A Teens Perspectivehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06655806587083074567noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4355041737187660718.post-5733648704425127222009-12-19T01:47:00.000-08:002009-12-19T01:48:13.865-08:00A Teen Perspective on: Handling ComplicationA Teen Perspective on: Handling Complication<br />By: KRae<br />Complicated things happen all the time, without fail. But, it’s how we handle and react to those situations that show our true character. So I want to state some things that might help you with handling complicate things. Because, you see, knowing the best way to handle situations, in your unique way, is going to help you greatly on dealing with complicate and stressful times. So then you can be the best person you can be, even in the hard times.<br />Now I do believe we can all agree that hitting the wall or speeding up in traffic and cutting people off is probably not the best way to handle complication. So if we are all in agreement on that one than I would like to show some tricks and tips to handle stress and complication that some experienced and wise people do to help themselves in those situations. And I would also like to state a little about their personality also because, I will say once again, everyone is very different and therefore have different ways to handle what is stressful to them.<br />(Only first and last names initials and ages given)<br />K H 42<br />Personality-outgoing <br />K H admits they are very explosive but they do personally think that you need to get over with a complication and problematic situation as fast as possible, even if it means being rather explosive, or else the stress can build up and get worse later on.<br />This might not be the best way to handle things, because being explosive, in its self, is never a good thing. However I do agree that you need to not let problems build up to something you cannot control or into a situation that you won’t be able to control yourself.<br />J G 36<br />Personality-Quite, to their self, reserved<br />J G says to take quite time to think over the whole situation first before fighting or handling the situation<br />R W 39<br />Personality-Bold, outgoing, happy, go lucky<br />R W says during before and after a problem they just remember<br />“Except the things you can’t change,<br />Change the things you can,<br />And try for the wisdom to know the difference.”<br />Because R W says they fully believe that most stress is caused because people want control of complicated situations. So R W says to simply admit you are not in control of everything you want to be and admit some things you just can’t change.<br />I do in many ways agree with R Ws outlook on things. Because it is true, if we do not have control of others attitudes and stress that occurs we seem to maybe makes things a little worse than need be. So I want to encourage you, as does R W, to sometimes just let things be and move on doing simply yet oh so difficult thing will help you immensely in handle things you not truly handle.<br />K H 54<br />Personality-Calm, organized<br />K H says they think a lot about the situation and doesn’t make choices in the heat of the moment but chooses to look outside the situation in and then think fully on everything and then choice to go through with making a choice or finishing the problem.<br />T S 50<br />Personality-shy, comical<br />T S says to truly think through everything, from beginning to end. So like rather than being told something and then firing back with something, think your what you really want to say and hear what the others have to say through and through before actually opening your mouth. T S also says to try and keep a little since of humor, as to not stress yourself even more.<br />T S 47<br />Personality- Organized, logical and sequential (following or accompanying as a consequence)<br />T S says to look at situations and categorize it (like on a scale to one and ten) and evaluate it and if it’s truly important than try to see who/how it effects yourself and others and then make a decision to minimize negative impacts on either you or others. And T S says if it is not important on your scale after evaluating the situation, which most aren’t as important as you think in the heat of the moment that it is, than choose to simply say “oh well”.<br />J N 36<br />Personality-logical, to their self<br />J N says to talk about the situation with an outsider for their opinion. Just remember if you do choose to do J Ns tip than you need to talk to someone who will be truly honest, and who you will really listen to. Also J N says before making big choices they like to do homeopathic supplements to help cope with stress and clear there head.<br />C F 42<br />Personality-Very easy going<br />C F says to try simply have understanding and find a quit place for a little time to think and meditate. C F also says to always remember that in stressful times, fights and complication that you need to look for a progress not perfection.<br />T N 32<br />Personality-Easy going and simply tries to go with the flow<br />T N says to talk to someone who knows you really and will have your best interest at hand when giving you advice and listening to your complication.<br />G H 37<br />Personality-Out going and humorous<br />G H says to try for as little drama in situations as possible when trying to end the situation and realize life happens and you cannot be the center of the universe or fix everything or have everything go the way you feel they should.<br />L J 62<br />Personality-Optimistic (expecting the best in this best of all possible worlds) and quite<br />L J says to think a lot and consider all possibilities and to talk to someone whose opinion you value.<br />S P 36<br />Personality-Reserved, introverted (given to examining own sensory and perceptual experiences) logical, optimistic (expecting the best in this best of all possible worlds)<br />S P says to stop a stressful situation and take a few minutes to think everything through, and S P says if it’s stress having to do with a choice that they make a list or pros and cons for that decision. For emotional situations they say they talk to a friend to get an outsiders opinion and if the problem is related to other people (like fights and so on) to try and see their side and see the situation through their eyes.<br />As you can see depending on their personalities depended on how their best way to handle stress was. So what works for one person, or your parents or friends or peers, in handling stress or difficult choices and situations, might not work for another. And doing just what others say for you to do in a situation on handling stress might even cause things to end worse than they might of if you knew how to handle your stress correctly and how you need to do it best for you. <br />So whether you know you handle stress poorly, or whether you simply want to find a new, or better way to handle situations. I encourage you, and hope you will, and hope it will help you, to take a look at all of what they all have suggested and to look at the personalities and think about how they might relate to you. Then think about how even if one way doesn’t work, that you will try different ways till you find one that will help you handle complication better in the future.A Teens Perspectivehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06655806587083074567noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4355041737187660718.post-66653081978395025522009-11-22T00:42:00.000-08:002009-11-22T00:43:47.061-08:00A Teen Perspective on: Being YouA Teen Perspective on: Being You<br />By: KRae<br /><br />The definition of Peer pressure, according to dictionary.com, is “Pressure from one's peers to behave in a manner similar or acceptable to them.” <br />So basically, as we all probably already know, it means to conform to what other people want you to be like. This is ridicules, for many different reasons. I mean, answer me these few questions.<br /><br />• If parents, teachers, significant others, bosses, or leaders try to get you to be different then who you are, what happens? <br /><br />• Do you get mad, or disappointed in yourself, or disappointed in them for not simply accepting you for you? <br /><br />• So, if you get so mad at those people who want you to change, then why is it okay for your friends or a group of people to do the same thing?<br /><br /> The answer to that last question is “it’s not okay”. Well that simply answer of “no”, which I hope you agree with, is what I want to touch on for this article.<br />You see, there is nothing wrong with wanting people to simply like you for who you are. And there is also nothing wrong with changing yourself for what you know you need to be or what you simply want to be. But there is something wrong with changing who you are for what others say or think you need to be in order to fit in or get them to like you more.<br /><br />Now you might not see changing yourself because others say you need to as something that’s wrong. But later in life, or hopefully by the time you’re done reading this, you will realize what I’m meaning. Because I believe it is actually quite simply, why change yourself for people who don’t just like you the way you are. Why not just wait and find the friends or the group of people who truly accept you for who you are. And then when you find that group you will see how happy it makes you to find those true real friends. Rather than fake friends who pressured you into being who they wanted you to be or do what they said you needed to do.<br /><br />Although I would like to explain that, just simply being who you are and not changing yourself for others has a lot to do with your self esteem and how you see yourself. So I do encourage you to maybe read, or reread, the article on esteem I have written. Because I do promise you that if you stay true to yourself then you will find the others who are true to themselves and like you for you. <br />But please do not make the mistake of thinking because I am saying to just be yourself then that means your parents or leaders or anyone who is truly important in your life are wrong in any way for telling or expressing to you what they feel you need to be. Because believe me they might know you almost a little better then you do. Or maybe they at least know what is truly best for you, or what will help you most in the long run. So don’t shut out the people who want to truly help you, just try and learn to recognize the difference of the two types of people. And then when you can recognize the types of people that want to change you than you will be able to know who means best for you and who just wants you to change.<br /><br />So be yourself, don’t change for the ones who don’t matter. But do, be open to hearing what the ones who care about you are saying. How they feel, what they think will help you to be who you truly are, or what would benefit you by being the way that’s best, for you.A Teens Perspectivehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06655806587083074567noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4355041737187660718.post-37241125536485997562009-11-17T16:25:00.000-08:002009-11-17T16:30:13.074-08:00A Teen perspective on: AppreciationA Teen Perspective on: Appreciation<br />By:KRae<br /><br />This is a short article about simply appreciation and I do feel it is something most people need to do more so please read and truly think about the things I am saying. <br /><br />Now,the generalized topic of appreciation can cover many different thing, your appreciation of things, and of others, and of course many more. But those are the two main issues I would like to touch on. <br /><br />So first off, your appreciation of things. I could be simple and come right out and say, SUCK IT UP, stop complaining and appreciate life and what you’re given in life. Or, I could be a little more understanding and say just be thankful for what you have. Because you never truly know when it will all slip away, or when you could have it all swept away from right under your feet. <br /><br />You see I do understand where you are coming from. I have been through things in my life that made me wonder why me? and made me wonder how I would even be able to handle anymore at all. Rather than being thankful that I made it through the situations. I like most people wished for a difference, different things, different circumstances, different everything. But I have, and I hope this article will help you also to see the truth. The truth that there is always something worse that could happen or could of happened. There is always someway that u get off easy even when you don’t realize it. And I fully believe if you just try to look for those ways, that you will see too, why you need to be appreciative. And if that doesn’t work then I encourage you to realize that the bad could become horrible, the horrible could deadly or worse. So think about that and please realize that, no matter how bad things get, you have it easier then someone else out there.<br /><br />Now, the next kind of appreciation I want to talk a little about is appreciating other. And please trust me when I say, I know how you feel about people who drive you totally insane, people you can never get along with, people who are just annoying, and just people in general sometimes. And it is understandable to just not get along with certain people because some people are annoying, or rude, or inconsiderate, or full of themselves, or selfish. Sometimes personalities just don’t work well together at all. But I want to encourage you to still appreciate the people who drive you mad.<br /><br />I’m sure now you’re expecting me to say, what if they weren’t there or something happened to them? But I know firsthand that sometimes you do wish that something would just happen to them. But there are more reasons to appreciate the people who you can’t stand or who have hurt you in life such as, maybe they need you. Or, deep down inside you, even if you don’t realize it, you need that little insanity in your life. So maybe it’s as simple as you all actually help each other in very off and different ways. So no matter what way someone is, you need to appreciate them for who they are and what they do to affect your life. Because never forget they could be replaced with someone else, and things could get even worse.<strong></strong>A Teens Perspectivehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06655806587083074567noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4355041737187660718.post-48114679177595468202009-10-31T00:57:00.000-07:002009-10-31T01:00:03.899-07:00A Teen Perspective on:EsteemA Teen Perspective on: <br />Esteem<br />By:KRae<br /><br />This week I was approached by someone with a “friend of a friend” type scenario, who needed advise. After giving as much advice as I could at the time, I decided I needed to address that issue with more people than just them. Because it is a problem many people I know have dealt with, or are dealing with. Self esteem. And the self esteem of others.<br /><br />So to start off with I would like to say, be proud! Sounds like a simple enough thing to do but, I have encountered many teens and adults who have found a lot of trouble with just being proud of them self. Being proud of the way they are, look and feel, of their opinions, thoughts, and beliefs. And it is sad to me that people feel like they are not good enough to be proud of who they are. Some are even so down on themselves that they feel they do not deserve things, and are not good enough for things. But believe me, they (or you) are very wrong about that.<br />So stop your foolish thinking, stop the self doubt and don’t be ashamed of yourself or down on yourself anymore. Don’t think well I’m not like that, or well I’m not as good as, or I will never be able to, or anything like that. Just think I am, I have, I will. Think more to the good you are rather than just focusing on the negative. Because we all have negative stuff about us, but we all, in our own ways, have very special good stuff about us too. So focus on the good in you, not the bad that people tell you, or bad things around you, or a bad past. Just focus on what you are and be proud to show who you truly are.<br /><br />Now weather you needed to hear that above, or even if you didn’t, and you have the highest self esteem of all (high self esteem not over confidence, please note the difference, one is good, one not so much) I highly encourage you to read this next part; others esteem.<br /><br />If you have had a low self esteem, or if you have ever been humiliated or even just embarrassed, than you are probably more sensitive to those around you and how they feel. But then again, you might not be. Either way I need you all to take others esteem into your thoughts. I need you to stop the teasing, jokes, gossip and pranks anything that you feel would hurt another. Because it more than likely will, or already has. <br /><br /> It all goes back to what you probably heard a million times growing up. “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all” and also “don’t do it, if you wouldn’t like it done back to you”. Well those are exactly right. You have no idea how others feel, what they are thinking, or how their esteem is. So why take the chance or ruining them when you most certainly wouldn’t want them to ruin you. <br />So, put yourself in their shoes; think about how you would feel. And I’m not just meaning (just for simple example) “would I like them making fun of my clothes? Hmm well I have nice clothes so now I wouldn’t mind” I’m meaning “would I like them making fun of my clothes? Well I don’t like those clothes but maybe it wouldn’t be my choice to wear them, maybe I had no other option. So no I wouldn’t like it. So no I won’t say anything about it”. <br /><br />And if maybe you don’t even see than why they would not like what you say or are doing. Than basically, why waste your time ruining theirs? It makes no since at all, so why do it?<br /><br />Why not just be proud of yourself, stop the dumb non since, and just let them be proud of themselves to?A Teens Perspectivehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06655806587083074567noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4355041737187660718.post-58694819463815111572009-10-26T23:27:00.000-07:002009-10-27T09:13:30.401-07:00A Teen Perspective on:DreamingA Teen Perspective on:Dreaming<br /> By:KRae <br /><br /> <br />When you were little you probably wanted to do something special when you “got big.” You might have been so happy, proud and certain of what you wanted to be, just like these little ones.<br /><br />(Only giving initials and ages)A P, 8, wants to be a baby nurse and she is most certain that it is what she wants to be, however; A P says she is only “sorta excited” about it, maybe that is because people have already downed on her dreams.<br /><br />M H, 9, wants to be a dance instructor and singer, I asked M H, “If something bad happened to you and it made dancing and singing very difficult for you, would you give up on being a dancer and singer?” M H answered saying she would “never give up her dream.”<br /><br />N N, 8, wants to be a vet, K S, 8, wants to be a teacher, V J, 13, a dental hygienist, T B, 14 wants to be on Broadway, and they all said the same thing, that they would never give up on their dream.<br /><br />These young children are probably the same way you were when you were younger. You had dreams. Dreams you were so certain would be fulfilled. Things you were so sure you would of done by now. Well, their dreams will probably fail, their certainty will probably fade away, just like yours did.<br /><br />Why though? Why did things change? Well lots of times, people just change, they come up with new wants, plans, desires and needs. So, their ideas of what job they wanted or what they wanted to be, also changed. And situations like that are, of course, typical and understandable. There is absolutely nothing wrong with changing what you want to be a million times, before you finally make the choice you absolutely want (probably don’t change a million times if your already in college or something like that, but you get what I mean, I hope).<br /><br />But, what about the other times people’s dreams change? What about when friends, parents or society, try to talk “reality” with them? What about when people trash those dreams? Well, things like this happen a lot and it’s sad how it ruins people’s spirits and crushes their dreams. That situation is, I believe, unacceptable. And I want it all to stop, so I want you to forget about reality. I want you to be who you are and dream the dream you have. Or make a dream, realistic or not. Weather you complete the dream or not, is not the problem, its weather you even dreamed at all, or had things in your life to aspire to that matters. So please, don’t let the world down on your dreams any more than they already have, just believe in yourself and figure out your true dreams for your life, and then, never let go of those dreams. <br /><br />Now,maybe you did have dreams, maybe they were wonderful dreams, but hurt or pain in your life stopped you from living the dream you wanted. Well, these times are excitable, because it is the persons soul choice, but it is heartbreaking. I think that although you have been hurt, although you have been broken, you still have the right, and somewhere down inside you, you have the desire, to dream like a child again. <br /><br />I gave up on certain dreams in my life a long time ago, because of pain, hurt, and heartache. But I realized, no matter how bad things get, believing in a dream for my life, believing things would get better, trusting that they would, was a dream I needed to have. And that is why, no matter what, we all need to dream.<br /><br />So ask yourself, why not dream big for my life? Why not thrive for that job or life style I want? <br /><br />I believe you need to go for it, I say dream your dream and live your life to the fullest that your dreams can take you. Get past peoples “realities”, get past your own doubts, get past how most people have given up on their dreams, or how you did at one point too, get past other peoples actions. Just, get past it all and think for a little while, what do I want when I grow up? <br /><br />Here are some people who don’t have the same dreams they did when they were younger, and some weren’t even having dreams to live for, or look forward to now. So when I asked them “what do you want to be when you grow up?” some had to think of things, make new dreams, or just remember old ones.<br /><br />K Y, 46, wants to be at full peace and have no regrets.<br />K D, 39, wants to be stronger and more secure.<br />R W, 38, wants to be a personal trainer.<br />L M, 47, wants to have a day off.<br />J E, 37, wants to be fully successful in raising her kids.<br />S W, 67, wants to learn to play the piano.<br />L B, 41, wants to simply make sure her two daughters find good men.<br />G S, 46, wants to travel.<br />C K, 38, wants to go to nursing school.<br />A S, 38, wants to be healthier and lose weight.<br /><br />And last but not least, M L, 65, who says “I am living my dream”, being retired.<br /><br />So finally, I don’t care if you are a teen, adult, or if you’re even only young at heart. I believe you need to forget what others have said and just open your eyes and see that you deserve the happiness of being able to dream, and even, fulfill those dreams.A Teens Perspectivehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06655806587083074567noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4355041737187660718.post-10944977146264218532009-10-12T18:22:00.000-07:002009-10-26T23:26:59.396-07:00A Teen Perspective on:Problem Step<div align="center"><span style="font-family:verdana;"><strong>A TEEN PERSPECTIVE ON:<br /><img class="gl_italic" alt="Italic" src="http://www.blogger.com/img/blank.gif" border="0" />PROBLEM STEPS</strong></span></div><br /><div align="center"><span style="font-family:verdana;"><strong><br />By:KRae</strong></span></div><br /><div align="center"><span style="font-family:verdana;"><strong><br />In order to solve certain problems and troubles in your life you will have to help yourself by figuring out your true self.</strong></span></div><br /><div align="center"><br /><span style="font-family:verdana;"><strong>Finding your “true self” can sound a lot like some Dr who says Miss who some self help crap. But believe me it is a crucial part of, preventing your own personal problems, solving already made problems, healing from the struggles of those problems.</strong></span></div><br /><div align="center"><br /><span style="font-family:verdana;"><strong>While reading this I ask you to be open to what your reading rather than thinking you have it all already figured out or thinking certain reasoning is unorthodox. Also remember this is not a graded thing. It’s nothing like, if you still have problems or don’t heal from struggles fast enough then you fail. This is to simply to help you if you let it help you. I know in my life that is something I have and always will have to work on, thinking I’m always being graded or need to be better than its possible for me to be. And when I’m not as good as I feel I should be I am very down on myself. And that almost makes it harder to hear others ideas sometimes. I encourage you all, if you are anything like me in that since to drop that bad habit, believe me it will get you nowhere in life, just down on the inside and a fake happy face on the outside.</strong></span></div><br /><div align="center"><br /><span style="font-family:verdana;"><strong>PREVENTING PROBLEMS</strong></span></div><br /><div align="center"><br /><span style="font-family:verdana;"><strong>In order to prevent problems in your life you must find strength to know and admit what your weaknesses are. Then not put yourself in a bad situation where your weaknesses could get you into trouble.</strong></span></div><br /><div align="center"><br /><span style="font-family:verdana;"><strong>So for example, if you know you don’t want to eat junk food but potato chips are one of your weaknesses. Then admit “oh darn, if I see those chips I’m gonna want them” and then try to prevent the situation. By not walking down the chip aisle, with five extra bucks in your pocket and a stomach that’s howling to get your attention. I think you get what I mean.</strong></span></div><br /><div align="center"><br /><span style="font-family:verdana;"><strong>Now in order to find your personal weaknesses you will need to find a process that best works for you. Everyone is different and therefore; we each have a personal process we will need because of personal struggles and of course personal unique strengths.</strong></span></div><br /><div align="center"><br /><span style="font-family:verdana;"><strong>I will try to give the best guide lines I can to finding a process to help you find your weaknesses and try to prevent them from turning into problems.</strong></span></div><br /><div align="center"><span style="font-family:verdana;"><strong></strong></span></div><br /><div align="center"><span style="font-family:verdana;"><strong>THE GUIDE LINES</strong></span></div><br /><div align="center"><br /><span style="font-family:verdana;"><strong>The first guide line I believe, for a right process is to look in your past a little. Take a look at times in your life you have already been in problems, had struggles or straight out in trouble. You can either take a look at the few most recent situations, or the biggest ones anything you choose. Now what did you do wrong in those situations? Yes you, just you, no excuses, or passing the blame, or reasoning any of those problems. Take a little time to reflect on those things, either write them down if that will help you, speak out loud about them, or just pounder them awhile whatever you feel will help you think about those things best. Please take time to do that now…No really, do that now.</strong></span></div><br /><div align="center"><span style="font-family:verdana;"><strong></strong></span></div><br /><div align="center"><br /><span style="font-family:verdana;"><strong><br />I hope that looking back on past problems was able to really help you reflect on what the cause was for your problems and how you could have tried to prevent it. By doing that it should help your process of figuring out your true weaknesses. Now that hopefully you have found certain things that may be your weaknesses I encourage you strongly to talk to someone about it, write down exactly what you feel your weaknesses in life, or weaknesses to certain temptations may be. Then find someone you truly trust who will be honest with you and read it to them, a parent, sibling, pastor, teacher, mentor, great friend, you choose. Then after you have read it, ask them if they agree that those struggles are your weaknesses. Maybe even ask for some constructive criticism on your weaknesses. After you have done all that take some time before going on to the next section to just observe your life when you confront a problem, get in trouble, find trouble, or when it finds you, or when you avoid trouble all together.<br /><br />SOLVING PROBLEMS</strong></span></div><br /><div align="center"><br /><span style="font-family:verdana;"><strong>Now that you have figured out some weakness you have which should help you to stay out of some trouble, please know that, that doesn’t mean you will not get into trouble or haven’t again already, I mean we are all human. So in this section we will be trying to work on solving problems. Solving problems you have already gone through, are going through, or even just so you know for when trouble find you in the future. </strong></span></div><br /><div align="center"><br /><span style="font-family:verdana;"><strong>The start on solving problems either small (got in a fight with your mom and your grounded from your computer for a week) or big (which could be a number very hard to deal with things) is to forget about other. Not ignore them and be rude but forget that the people who really don’t care or matter will judge you. Forget that they may talk about you behind your back, spread rumors about you, not like you anymore, just forget about it and them all together for a little bit. </strong></span></div><br /><div align="center"><br /><span style="font-family:verdana;"><strong>Now think about the people who do matter. Think about the people who were affected or hurt by your actions, your actions from ages ago, last month, this morning, any scenario that you have on your mind probably the same ones you looked at to find your weaknesses before). Depending on who was hurt, and when the problems took place will be your deciding factors on the next step to solving your problems you have before you.</strong></span></div><br /><div align="center"><br /><span style="font-family:verdana;"><strong>This step might be a difficult one but it is very needed. You must seek forgiveness from those that have been hurt by you. You cannot solve the problems before you and get the trust and love back from those who really matter if you are not willing to ask for forgiveness and learn from your mistakes. Just say you’re sorry simple as that. Or go all out and explain how you are seeking their forgiveness to try and solve these problems that you caused and that now you see your weaknesses and faults in those situations.</strong></span></div><br /><div align="center"><span style="font-family:verdana;"><strong><br />After you have sought the forgiveness of others you need to do another very hard part of solving the problems, forgive yourself. This ties right into the healing process but it is still part of just solving the problems. Take some time to think and forgive yourself for the things you have done and learn to not wallow in the problems of the past. If you do not see your fault in any situation and therefore find no need to forgive yourself and you only asked for others forgiveness to make them happy then, well, talk to someone who thought you did do wrong and hear out their perspective.</strong></span></div><br /><div align="center"><br /><span style="font-family:verdana;"><strong>Once you have forgiven yourself than you have actually already started the healing process but you must also heal from the consequences of your actions.</strong></span></div><br /><div align="center"><br /><span style="font-family:verdana;"><strong>HEALING FROM PROBLEMS</strong></span></div><br /><div align="center"><br /><span style="font-family:verdana;"><strong>Healing your heart from actions and problems would be so much easier if we could just say sorry, get forgiven, forgive our self, and have everything go back to normal. Unfortunately that doesn’t always happen. There are still consequences, some even life long, that you will have to deal with. But even dealing with those things you must remember that if you have followed all these problem steps than you have already been forgiven and forgiven yourself. So even if things get hard (which chances are they will). You must just try to get through it all, keep your head up, keep your heart healing and healed and not get mad at yourself, or think everyone else it. </strong></span></div><br /><div align="center"><br /><span style="font-family:verdana;"><strong>Everyone heals from problems and struggles differently but the basics to healing is to remember no matter if it’s a grounding or people looking at you different or even people hating you, that not everything lasts forever and that you will not be haunted by your actions life long. You, and everyone else, will be able to move on from any problem that happened. Now that does not mean it will seem easy and that others will let your actions go as fast as you would want them to, but remember your healing and learning from problems is much more important than the way others judge you or see you.<br />A part of healing is simply making sure you don’t get into trouble again. So remember your weaknesses and remember how you feel you can prevent them. Also, do not forget about solving the problems that are before you and constantly remember that you have now been forgiven, so do not dwell on the past problems. Learn from them, find your weaknesses through them, and move on.</strong></span></div>A Teens Perspectivehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06655806587083074567noreply@blogger.com0